-"5 Reasons I got Engaged before 23"
-"20 Things to do Instead of Getting Engaged."
-"15 Things a Husband should tell his Wife."
-"17 Reasons to Stay Single"
Every time I open Facebook, my timeline is flooded with these links. Everyone shares their own opinion. To be single or to be in a serious relationship. To backpack across Europe or to get married. To fall in love with myself or to fall in love with a soul mate. But if I'm honest, I've kind of had enough. Being single (for what I will admit is the first time in a while), I of course relate to the posts about learning to be an independant person who follows her dreams and stands on her own and blah blah blah. However, I've seen both sides of the argument. Falling in love is fantastic. Having a partner that you can count on and being reassured that you'll never be alone? Amazing. There's absolutely nothing wrong with falling head over heels in love, even at a relatively young age. However, there is also nothing wrong with being single - discovering who you are as an individual - finding out your true likes, dislikes, dreams, and beliefs. It is an equally amazing feeling. I say stop pushing young adults into one side or the other -- the married or the wandering.
1) Why choose? Being in love doesn't mean giving up dreams. It means having a partner to fulfill those dreams with. A relationship means compromise and maturity yes, but who says you can't continue to live.
2) IT DOESN'T MATTER. Single people: being in a relationship is wonderful. Or it should be anyway. It's not a disease. Love is grand. Married/relationship people: being single does not mean being a failure. It simply means that love isn't in the table at the moment.
Why do we constant push people into one or the other? Why is it such a big deal? If you're single, that's great! Live, be happy, enjoy life! If you're in a relationship, that's great, too! Again, live, be happy, enjoy life!
Each person has a different story and each person is on a different page. Don't judge or harsh on people who aren't at the same spot in life as you are, even if you're the same age. So what if I'm single at 20? I've got plenty of time. I'm learning who I am! But you know what? Maybe I'll find the person God has made for me tomorrow and marry them within the year! That's great, too! Either way, I choose to be happy. I refuse to waste time worrying. I will live my life, and I will be happy. Maybe tomorrow I won't feel this way. Maybe tomorrow I will absolutely love being single. Maybe tomorrow I will cry because I am alone. Who knows! But today, I say status does not matter. Happy is what matters, today, tomorrow, and for life.
